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Monday, September 14, 2026

The Hero Who Lived Next Door

 

The Hero Who Lived Next Door

The Hero Who Lived Next Door
The Hero Who Lived Next Door

Sometimes, we search for heroes in movies and books. We watch their stories, get inspired by their courage, and think heroes are people who do extraordinary things.
But many times, we don’t realise that some heroes are already living among us.
They don’t wear a uniform. They don’t have background music playing when they arrive. Nobody may even know what they have done.
They are just ordinary people who become extraordinary when someone needs them.
This is one such real story. A story that may take a little time to digest, because when everything is over and you think about what could have happened, you realise how differently that day could have ended.
To keep the people and relationships private, I am taking you to a place that may resemble somewhere you know, but you will probably never find it on a map.
Now, if you like to hear stories in my way, hop in and put your seat belt on.
Let us take a small drive before we reach the story.
Imagine an evening somewhere in the middle of the Western Ghats. There is a light rain outside. The road is wet, surrounded by green, and every few kilometres another curve is waiting for you. You are driving slowly, maybe around 40 or 50 kmph, while some beautiful old melodies are playing on the car stereo.
Keep the window half open.
Every now and then, tiny rain droplets splash onto your face. The air coming through the window is cool and fresh, carrying that smell which comes only when rain touches trees and soil.
Now relax.
Visualise it in your own way.

Come, let us go to the story. 


A Normal Family, A Normal Morning

There lived a family in a fairly big city. Not as big or heavily populated as Bengaluru, but still busy enough with concrete buildings, traffic and people always running behind something.
The husband had his own CA firm.
He was a busy man. For him, work was almost like worship. He spent a lot of time working, probably because when you have struggled through life and built something without shortcuts, you somehow become very attached to it. Hard work becomes part of your daily routine.
His wife was a homemaker. Her world mostly revolved around their two little children, aged around five and two.
His mother was also staying with them, but around this time she had gone to visit her elder son’s family in another city.
That morning started like any other day.
The husband left for his office. Their elder child went to school.
At home, it was just the mother and the younger daughter.
Nothing about that morning gave any indication that, within a few minutes, this family would be facing something none of them had expected.

“Amma, Let’s Go Down”

Amma, Let’s Go Down
Amma, Lets Go Down



The little girl had her own routine.
Like many small children, she loved going to the terrace. That was her little playground. Usually, mother and daughter would spend some time there between around 9:00 and 10:30 in the morning.
That day also, they went upstairs and played as usual.
Around 10:30 AM, the little girl had enough.
She told her mother that she wanted to go back home and play inside.
So both of them started walking down the staircase.
For some reason, the daughter went a little ahead of her mother.
Children do that.
One moment they are beside you, and the next moment their tiny legs have already taken them several steps ahead.
Within seconds, she had reached near the front door.
Then she stopped.
She noticed something close to the entrance.
In her own little words, she started describing it to her mother.
Her mother was still coming down the stairs and didn’t think much about it. From whatever the child was describing, she thought it might be a small snail or some little creature near the door.
After all, this was a house close to the main road, surrounded mostly by a concrete jungle. There were not many trees or gardens around where you would expect much wildlife.
Her mother came closer.
Another few seconds passed.
Then she looked properly.
That was not a snail.
It was a snake.

The First Thought Was Her Daughter

There was hardly any time to think.
Her first instinct was simple.
Protect the child.
The mother tried to open the door, thinking that if they moved inside, perhaps the snake would get disturbed and move away in another direction.
But sometimes, when we try to solve one problem quickly, the situation takes a completely different turn.
The door opened.
And instead of moving away, the snake entered the house.
In seconds, it disappeared into the hall and went below the TV stand.
Now imagine the situation.
A mother standing there with her two-year-old daughter.
A snake somewhere under the TV stand.
No one else at home.
And you don’t even know what kind of snake it is.
Initially, she thought it could be a small rat snake or some harmless young snake. It was tiny, after all.
Still, she knew she could not take any chance.
Very carefully, she tried moving the TV stand slightly to see where it had gone.
That was when the situation changed.
The little snake raised its head.
Its hood opened.
And it hissed.
Only then did she realise what she was looking at.
A very young spectacled cobra.
Small in size, yes.
But definitely not something anyone would want to handle casually.
For a few seconds, fear completely took over.

A Phone Call That Changed Everything

When something like this happens, sometimes you don’t even know whom to call first.
She called her mother-in-law.
Her mother-in-law was in another city. There was no way she could physically come and help.
But sometimes, even from hundreds of kilometres away, one person can still change what happens next.
The mother-in-law listened to her.
She understood the situation.
And instead of panicking, she started thinking.
That presence of mind made the difference.
She immediately called the neighbour living just behind their house.
At the same time, she asked her daughter-in-law to call the nearby aunty and simply ask her to send uncle over because they needed urgent help.
Interestingly, she didn’t explain the whole snake story.
Probably there was no time for a long conversation.
Just one message.
“Ask uncle to come once. It is urgent.”
And sometimes, when there is a real need, help comes from a place very close to us.
In this case, literally from the house next door.

Uncle Arrived

The neighbour whom everyone called “uncle” was an animal lover.
A die-hard one.
They had two beautiful dogs who were like family to them, and he was also someone who loved nature and animals. More importantly, he was the kind of person who would come when somebody needed help.
Only a compound wall separated the two houses.
He understood that this was not a normal call.
And when he came, he didn’t come empty-handed.
He walked in carrying a bag and a snake-handling tool.
That itself gave the family some confidence.
By then, the mother-in-law had also informed her son.
The moment he heard what was happening at home, everything else became secondary.
He left his work and rushed back.
By the time he reached, uncle was already preparing to handle the snake.
Everyone knew one thing.
If that small cobra managed to enter one of the bedrooms, hide behind a cupboard, or disappear into some corner of the house, finding it again would become much more difficult.
So they needed to act carefully.
Not fast.
Carefully.

A Few Very Long Minutes


A Few Very Long Minutes
A Few Very Long Minutes


Uncle asked them to bring a small bucket with a proper lid.
Then he slowly approached the cobra.
What followed probably lasted only a few minutes.
But for the family watching it, those few minutes must have felt much longer.
The cobra was small, alert and defensive.
Uncle was equally alert.
There was no intention to hit it or hurt it. His aim was to control the situation, protect the family, and also make sure the snake came out safely.
He knew he was dealing with a living creature that was probably frightened too.
Slowly, using the snake-handling tool, he guided it away from the TV stand.
The snake resisted.
It raised itself again.
There was hissing.
There was tension inside the room.
Everyone stayed at a distance.
Uncle remained focused.
One wrong movement could create a completely different situation.
Finally, he managed to guide the little cobra towards the bucket.
For one moment, everybody watched.
Then it went inside.
The lid was closed.
That was it.
The hall suddenly became quiet.
The same house that, a few minutes earlier, had been filled with fear and confusion was now silent.
I can imagine everybody looking at one another and slowly realising that the danger had passed.
The little daughter probably didn’t understand the seriousness of what had just happened.
Maybe that was better.

The Journey Was Not Over

The Journey Was Not Over
The Journey Was Not Over 


But for uncle, catching the snake was only half the work.
The intention was never to kill it.
The small cobra was simply in the wrong place.
It had somehow entered a concrete neighbourhood where humans had built their homes. It was not there looking for a fight.
So the husband and uncle took the safely contained snake away from the house and ensured it was released in a suitable natural area away from the family.
Only after that was the incident really over.
The family went back home.
The house was safe.
The child was safe.
The mother was safe.
And somewhere away from all those buildings and concrete, the little cobra was also given another chance to continue its life.

Who Was the Hero?

When I think about this story, one person naturally stands out.
Uncle.
Nobody had to force him to come.
There was no big discussion about the risk.
Someone needed help, and he came.
He had only one intention—to protect the little child and the family while making sure the animal was not unnecessarily harmed.
That is why I call people like him our silent heroes.
But when you look closely, this story actually had more than one kind of courage.
There was the mother, standing inside the house with her little daughter when a cobra was under the TV stand. Fear was definitely there, but she stayed present enough to protect her child and call for help.
There was the mother-in-law, sitting in another city, unable to physically do anything, yet having the presence of mind to immediately think about who nearby could help.
There was the husband who dropped his work and rushed home when his family needed him.
And finally, there was uncle, who walked across that small compound carrying his snake-handling tool and quietly did what had to be done.
No introduction.
No applause.
No camera.
Just help.

Heroes Are Sometimes Very Close

Life is full of small fights that we face every day.
Most are ordinary.
Some arrive without warning.
And during those moments, we realise the value of the people around us.
We sometimes look towards the sky and ask God to help us.
But maybe help does not always arrive in the way we expect.
God may not personally knock on our door.
Sometimes, He sends someone who is already living next door.
Someone we simply call…
“Uncle.”

Sunday, June 21, 2026

Father…!! You Understand His Presence Only When He Is Not There

 

Father…!! You Understand His Presence Only                        When He Is Not There


Father…!! You Understand His Presence Only When He Is Not There
Father..!! 


The Fathers Who Loved Without Saying It


Today, while scrolling through social media, I saw too many Father’s Day posts.
Photos with fathers.
Old memories.
Stories.Some funny, some emotional.For a few minutes, I just kept scrolling.
Then I thought… why not write one? After all, if there is one person who deserves a Father’s Day post from me, it has to be my Hero.
My Appa.
But where do I start?
Do I talk about the father who never openly showed affection?
The father who would hand over his earnings to my mother and trust her to manage the entire family?
Or do I talk about the first and last beating I got when I was around 12 years old?
No…
My father is much more than that.
People often say that when you become a father, you start understanding your own father better.
I think that is true.
Especially for people like us whose fathers belonged to the generation before the 80’s.
They were different.
Not bad.
Not uncaring.
Just different.
They grew up in a world where men were expected to be tough.
A father was supposed to earn, solve problems, take responsibility and move on.
Emotions were kept inside.
Tears were hidden.
Love was rarely spoken.
Many of them would probably cry only when nobody was around.
And if something was troubling them, they would carry it alone.
My father was one among them.
He never openly told us he was proud.
He never came and hugged us.
He never sat and explained how much he loved us.
But today when I look back, I can see it everywhere.
In his actions.
In his sacrifices.
In the small moments which I never understood as a child.
Sometimes I feel ego was their biggest problem.
Not the ego we talk about today.
The kind of ego that never allowed them to bend.
Never allowed them to openly appreciate.
Never allowed them to say “I love you.”
But deep inside, they cared more than anybody else.
I am damn sure if my father had lived longer and crossed his sixties comfortably, he would have become the best grandfather.
Unfortunately life had other plans.My daughters never got the chance to know him.
And that is one thing I will always miss.My father was great.Not because he was perfect.
But because of the way he loved us.Let me tell you why.

The Tricycle That Cost More Than Money


The Tricycle That Cost More Than Money
The Tricycle

One of the oldest stories in our family is about a tricycle.
My mother still tells this story whenever she gets an opportunity to embarrass me in front of relatives.
I must have been around four or five years old. At that time we were not financially strong.
Lower middle-class family. My parents were still trying to establish themselves. Every rupee mattered.
And there I was. A stubborn fellow. I wanted a tricycle. Not tomorrow. Not next month. Immediately.
And because I did not get it, I decided I would not eat. Breakfast skipped. Lunch skipped. Now my mother was worried.
Today when I think about it, I feel bad for troubling them so much. But as a child, all I knew was that I wanted that tricycle. Finally my mother convinced my father. And somehow, the same day, I got one.
At that age I thought I had won. Today I see it differently. Today I see a young father struggling to earn, trying to build a life for his family, managing expenses and still finding a way to make his son’s silly dream come true. That tricycle was not just a toy. It was a father’s love. A love he never expressed in words.

The ₹150 Lesson I Never Forgot

The ₹150 Lesson I Never Forgot
Lesson i never forgot


Let me tell you another story.This happened when I was in high school. One Saturday I was in my father’s workshop. He was busy with work and did not have time to pay the electricity bill. He handed me the bill and some cash. I don’t remember the exact amount. Maybe around ₹150. For those days, it was not a small amount. The electricity office was hardly a few streets away. 
Simple job.
Go.
Pay the bill.
Bring back the receipt.
That was it.
I kept the money in my front pocket and started walking. Everything was fine. Until I reached the counter. I searched my pocket. Nothing. Checked again. Nothing. The money had disappeared.I still remember that feeling. My heart started racing. There were no mobile phones in those days. No way to call and inform. I walked back almost one and a half kilometres searching every inch of the road.
Nothing. The money was gone. Now I had a bigger problem. How do I face my father? The fear was not about the money. The fear was about disappointing him. Finally I did what every scared child does. I ran to my mother. I entered from the other side of the house so that my father wouldn’t see me. With my heart pounding, I told my mother that I had lost the money. Even today I feel mothers are the bridge in most families. Whenever children are scared, confused or in trouble, they automatically run to their mother. Not because fathers are bad. Not because fathers are strict. It is just how families work.
Mothers become the bridge. When my father came home for lunch, I sat in another room pretending to do homework. But honestly, I was not reading a single word. My ears were fully focused on what they were discussing. Finally, my mother told him. “Your son lost the money you gave him.” I was ready for the worst. The response shocked me. “It’s okay.” That was all. Just three words. Later when I stood before him with my head down, he patted my back and said, “Hope you learnt.” That’s it.
No shouting.
No anger.
No lecture.
Today when I think about it, I realise he understood something I didn’t. I had already learnt the lesson.
There was no need for punishment.

Fever, A Scooter Ride, and a Father’s Care


Fever, A Scooter Ride, and a Father’s Care
Father's care


Another incident is still very fresh in my memory. I was in college. One day after attending a couple of classes, I came back home. I was not feeling well. By afternoon my fever became very high. I was wrapped inside two or three blankets and lying on the bed. When my father came home for lunch, he saw me. He didn’t say much. That was normal. Few words. That was his style. A little later, I got up to walk towards the dining area. Suddenly everything went blank.
I fainted.
The next thing I remember was hearing my mother’s voice.
Panic.
Fear.
“Entha aaythu maga…”
After a few minutes when I regained consciousness, I found myself sitting between my father and mother on our scooter.
My father was driving us to the hospital.
Again, no dramatic words. No emotional display.
Just action.
That was his way of caring.

When Life Tested Him, He Simply Stood Strong


When Life Tested Him, He Simply Stood Strong
Life Tested

There was another difficult time when my brother met with a serious accident while crossing the road.
His leg was badly injured. At that time my mother was away taking care of my grandmother who was unwell. The responsibility completely fell on my father.And he handled it. Just like he handled every crisis in life.Quietly. Without creating panic. Without showing fear. Looking back now, I realise fathers often carry burdens silently so that the family can stay calm.

The Day I Saw Pride in His Eyes


The Day I Saw Pride in His Eyes
Day i saw pride


As time passed, I completed my studies and started attending interviews. Life was becoming difficult.
My father’s health was no longer good. There was not much income coming in. My brother was still studying. We were surviving with whatever savings were left. Even a small setback during that period could have affected the entire family. People will always say they are there for you. But when real problems come, you quickly learn how few people actually stand beside you. Then came the day I got my job offer. I still remember that journey back home. My father came to the bus stand to pick me up.
We travelled back together. Very few words were spoken. But throughout the journey I kept looking at him. And for the first time I could clearly see it. Pride. He never said it. Men from his generation rarely did. But I knew. His eyes said everything. That day I felt I had done something meaningful for him.

The Grandfather My Daughters Never Got to Meet


The Grandfather My Daughters Never Got to Meet
Never Got to Meet


Sometimes I wonder what life would have been if he was still here.
I never wanted anything extraordinary.
I simply wanted to make my father and mother proud.
I wanted to buy things for him which he never bought for himself.
I wanted him to enjoy life without worrying about money.
I wanted him to spend time with his grandchildren.
I wanted to see him teaching them things.
I wanted to see him become the grandfather I know he would have been.
With a small farm around, I am sure he would have happily spent his evenings there.
Looking after plants. Talking to neighbours. Playing with grandchildren. Enjoying a slower life.
Simple dreams. Nothing more.

Appa, There Is Still One Thing Left To Say


Appa, There Is Still One Thing Left To Say
Appa


Today I see parts of you through Amma. Sometimes when she says something or reacts in a certain way, I see you. And I miss you. More than words can explain.
Appa…
If there is one thing I want to tell you today, it is this.
I loved you.
Maybe I never said it enough. Maybe we belonged to a generation where such things were never spoken openly. But I loved you. And I still do. If I ever get another life, I have only one request.
Let me live it with my complete family around me for as long as possible. One day, sooner or later, we will meet again. And when we do, I just want to hug you. Nothing else. Just a hug.
And tell you how much I loved you.

Before You Close This Page...


Before You Close This Page...
Before you close this page


For everyone reading this… If your parents are still around, spend time with them.
Please don’t let ego win. Life is much shorter than we think. Sometimes they may say things that hurt us. Sometimes they may be stubborn. Sometimes they may insist that their way is the right way.
It’s okay.
Pause for a moment.
Think again.
Call them.
Visit them.
Sit with them.
Have that conversation.
Because one day we will give anything for just one more cup of tea with them, one more argument, one more piece of advice, one more ordinary day.
Don’t wait for that day to realise their value.

Happy Father's Day, Appa

Miss you Appa… Always.


Sunday, August 31, 2025

The Cat, the Snake, and a Memory from COVID Times

 

     The Cat, the Snake, and a Memory from 

                         COVID Times

                 Subtitle: A balcony morning, a farm flashback, and a standoff I still think about


During COVID, our world shrank to a few rooms—and suddenly small things became big stories. One morning on my balcony, a mother cat locked eyes with a snake. What happened next still lives in the rustle of those bushes.


The Cat, the Snake, and a Memory from COVID Times
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1) The Tiny World We Lived In

Early morning, before my kids woke up, I walked from my room to the hall. Just a few steps… and my mind went back to COVID times.

“OK! Don’t ask what new story I’m bringing now,” I told myself—because most of my stories begin before I start.

Back then, our world was small: bedroom → hall → balcony → kitchen. That was it.

Were those days good or bad? Health-wise, very tough. No one wants that again. But they also gave us silence, slow time, and a chance to notice things we used to miss. Metro cities went quiet. People went home. Villages came alive. And technology became our lifeline—work, school, life went virtual.

That bigger discussion is for another day. Today’s story is smaller—and closer.


The Tiny World We Lived In
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2) A Balcony Morning

One weekend I was busy with my balcony garden. In the base garden opposite, a mother cat lived with her kittens. She’d been around for more than two years. My wife and daughter adored her. She even slept on our swing chair sometimes.

Our apartment is a mini-biodiversity park—birds, cats, dogs, snakes, and sometimes a surprise monkey. Neighbours care for greenery and animals; someone even made a little couch for the cats.

That morning, the mother cat sat very still. Eyes fixed. Body tight.

At first, I thought she was watching a bird. But she didn’t blink.


A Balcony Morning
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3) Eyes That Wouldn’t Blink

I followed her gaze.

Sunlight hit the bushes and something faintly shimmered.

A snake.

It was looking back with the same focus.

For a moment, time slowed.


Eyes That Wouldn’t Blink
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4) Flashback: Pepsi vs. the Snake

That sight pulled me back to my childhood farm—and to our dogs: Pinky, Pepsi, and Singiri.

Once, Pepsi—short, brown, friendly but fierce—got into a fight with a rat snake. We heard her unusual bark and ran. The snake coiled tight around her. Pepsi did not give up. She bit the tail first, then the neck. It was a long fight. In the end, Pepsi won and came back wagging, proud.

That day I learned: even a non-venomous snake fights hard to live; a loyal dog will fight harder to protect.


Please visit my other blog on Pinky "Where Are You Going, Pinky?"

Note: “Pepsi” here is the name of our childhood dog, not the soft drink. 🐾


Flashback: Pepsi vs. the Snake
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5) Back to the Balcony

Now I was watching a fresh standoff: mother cat vs. rat snake.

The cat sprang. The snake coiled. They circled, hissed, leapt. For a second the snake looped near the cat’s neck. My heart stopped. The cat held her ground.

The photographer in me woke up. I ran inside, grabbed my camera, clicked the blur of fur and scales.

And then… silence.

Leaves settled. A quick rustle. The snake slipped deeper into the bushes. The cat stood guard, tail twitching, eyes still glowing.

I waited.

Nothing.

Back to the Balcony
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6) The Silence After the Rustle

Did the snake escape? Or was it waiting under the leaves for the next move?

I don’t know. I never saw it again.

Even now, when evening light hits those same bushes, I catch myself looking—just in case the story wants a different ending.


The Silence After the Rustle
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7) What That Morning Taught Me

  • Small things can be big wonders. In lockdown, a cat staring at a bush became a story I’ll never forget.

Small things can be big wonders
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  • Territory matters. Whether cat, dog, or human—we rise when our space, family, or peace is threatened.


Territory matters
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  • Survival is persistence. The snake was weaker, but it did not surrender. Strength isn’t everything; refusing to give up is.


Survival is persistence.
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  • Roots and belonging. Like Pepsi protecting us, like the mother cat holding her ground—COVID quietly reminded us to return to what matters: family, home, and nature.


Roots and belonging
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Sometimes, suspense is the lesson. Not knowing keeps us alert. Keeps us alive.


Closing Note

A balcony morning. A farm memory. A fight that still lives—not just in the bushes, but in my mind.


As the standoff unfolded, I did what I always do—the photographer in me took over, and I captured it all on camera. 👀📸













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